First of, we say props to those who are currently in a long-distance
relationship. To start with, relationships are tough then put six hours
between the two of you and it gets about ten times harder.
Talking to your boyfriend or girlfriend on the phone every night
instead of actually being able to spend time with them can make you feel like
there’s no point. It would just be easier if you were to be with someone who
lived in the same town as you. It’s one thing to be there for someone
emotionally, but relationships are also for physical reasons—to give them a hug
when they are upset, to lie in bed with them after a long day, to be able to
hang out and do nothing with them to purely enjoy their company.
Not only is it hard not having them around, but it’s hard to
actually keep the
relationship. You get jealous, lonely, angry, and insecure all at the same
time. When you fight, you have to resolve it over the phone, not face to face.
It’s tough. You do this for a reason, though. The person you are with is so
important to you that you’d rather have them six hours away than not have them
at all.
But some people have mastered it. Some are perfectly happy being
in a long-distance relationship and barely ever have problems. In fact, some
people prefer it.
It allows you to not rely on that person and enjoy the time you do get to spend
together. Some even think it is healthy for a
relationship because it prevents you from suffocating one another.
Sounds nice, right? Here are some 15 tips to follow to keep your long-distance relationship
stronger than ever. Even if you aren’t in a long-distance relationship, these
rules can still apply to you.
1) TRUST
them. They are yours, after all. Don’t fill your head with
thoughts of them going out with other people. It’s no secret that trust is the
key factor to any relationship, long distance or not. With no trust, you’re
doomed to fail at this long-distance thing
2) Keep
the Facebook stalking to a minimum. Nothing is more
annoying than hearing, “Oh my god. Who is that girl who wrote on your wall?”
3) Just because they don’t text you before they are going to bed
doesn’t mean that they’re really out at a bar making out with some girl. Chill out. Don’t
worry about them. That’s only going to bring you stress. Don’t
call them fifty times. It’s just annoying.
4) Stay
involved in your significant other’s life. If you can’t be
there physically, make sure that they still feel you are there spiritually.
Okay, not “spiritually,” but you know what I mean. Ask them what’s going on in
their life and what they are up to. Take time out of your day to have a genuine
conversation. Switch it up from the “Hey, what’s up” texting norms.
5) When
you are with them, DO NOT, and I repeat DO. NOT. go through their phone. It’s a complete invasion
of personal privacy and makes you look crazy. This rule applies to every
relationship, not just long distance.
6) NEVER
fight when you are together. Why waste such precious time? If
you have unresolved issues, talk them out when
you see each other. But never yell or accuse. Be mature about your issues.
7) Send
them “good morning” texts. It’s not always the guy’s job to
text you first, and it shows them that just because they are outta sight,
doesn’t mean they’re outta mind. Show them that you care and don’t always rely
on them to be the communicators.
8) Just
because you’re committed to them physically doesn’t mean you’re committed to
them mentally. If you’re having thoughts of being with other people, be careful.
Sometimes thoughts turn into actions, and you don’t want to ruin a good thing.
9) Skype is your best friend. Get with it.
10) Surprise
them on their birthday or when they have a special event
going on in their life. Nothing is better than seeing a face you love
unexpectedly.
11) Keep
it fun. When you finally get to spend time with the person you
barely see, you’re either going to want to just lie in bed with them all day or
go out and do fun things. Keep it at a medium.
12) Never question their
commitment by asking things like, “Are you sure you want
to keep doing this?” It makes you look self-conscious. If they are investing
time into you even six hours away, they care about you.
13) Don’t
cheat. They will find out. That is all.
14) Show/tell
them how much you care about them. Never let them forget
or question your feelings towards them.
15) Last, but CERTAINTLY not least is communication. If
you get in a fight, don’t be that immature girl (or guy) who says, “OMG we are
breaking up.” Talk it out. Since you guys live so far apart, it’s important to
work out every problem to avoid them stacking on top of each other.
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